The Peeping Tom Who Watches You
I recently went out of state to visit my brother, who suffers from a terminal disease. Sitting and watching TV with him all day started to get boring, so I went to Barnes & Noble to find a book. I ended up buying The Voyeur’s Motel by Gay Talese. Something seemed a little familiar about the book, but I bought it anyway. After reading a few pages, I realized that I had seen a documentary about it.
The true story centers around Gerald Foos, who bought a motel in Aurora, Colorado, and converted the attic to watch people engaged in the sex act. I’m not quite halfway through the book, and I’m not sure if I’ll finish reading it. Anyone who has watched a porno movie, I’m sure, would agree that it gets boring after a while. The same goes for reading about it.
It wasn’t the porno that fascinated me about this story, but what Foos had to say about human existence between the sex act:
Conclusion: My observations indicate that the majority of vacationers spend their time in misery. They fight about money; where to visit; where to eat; where to stay; all their aggressions somehow are immeasurably increased and this is the time they discover they are not properly matched.
Foos states that money is the number one argument that couples have. Keep that in mind. I’m going to put my two cents worth in on that topic at the end.
He goes on to say:
You can never really determine during their appearances in public that their private life is full of hell and unhappiness. I have pondered why it is absolutely mandatory for people to guard with all secrecy and never let it be known that their personal lives are unhappy and deplorable. This is the “plight of the human corpus,” and I’m sure provides the answer that if the misery of mankind were revealed all together spontaneously, mass genocide might correspondently follow.
Money and sex are the two main conflicts in marriage. I believe children come in at number three. I can’t give specific resources on that, but it comes from hundreds of self-help books I read over the years. Some things never change in marriage and cohabiting. I found this very depressing.
What I know for sure is that I never want to stay in another motel.
I’ll leave you with another depressing thought:
The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. — Henry David Thoreau
You can add women to that also.